I wonder, though, if what we are being mindful about will be open to wide interpretation.

Fortunately, today’s generation of gay youth are experiencing slightly more liberal attitudes and acceptance from their peer group about being gay, but there’s still a long way to go.

As a result, many gay men as adults remain perplexed and confused about how to date other men.

Without training, education, and support, many gay men are forced to “wing it” as they mingle and mate with other men, leaving many of them unsatisfied with their dating experiences and wondering if they’ll ever find a loving partner to settle down with. Creating a full life puts you in charge of your own happiness and puts less emphasis and dependency on finding a relationship to make you whole.

What follows is a tips list of things for gay men to keep in mind as they go about meeting other men in pursuit of their Mr. Add your own to the list and keep it handy as a quick-reference guide as you embark upon your dating adventures to promote greater success in your romantic life. You must be whole as a person first before a healthy relationship can be cultivated. Know who you are, what your needs and values are, and what you stand for.

One of the developmental tasks of all adolescents is to establish productive relationships with their peer group and to understand and manage their sexuality.

Dating provides fertile training ground for these teens for learning about themselves and how to establish and maintain healthy intimate relationships as they continue to mature and grow.

Be proactive in getting what you want and take responsibility for what happens. Don’t stand on the sidelines hoping someone will make contact with you. Family and friends provide a much needed source of connection, love, and fun that can truly enhance your life as a single gay man. Be careful of casual sexual encounters if your goal is to meet a prospective life partner.

Make that move yourself and choose to approach someone if you’re interested. A turn-down for a date has nothing to do with you as a person; it has everything to do with the other person’s projections and needs. Typically sexual release is the primary aim of such encounters, which can confuse and disillusion you to the type of men available, believing that gay men only want sex and nothing more significant or with depth. He was very supportive, understood the challenges in my life without judgment, and helped me to formulate my goals and reframe some of my self-defeating behaviors.

By developing yourself, those internal feelings of zest and fulfillment will show on the outside as well. This will take you far as you delve through the dating world.